the shift from being productive to being needed is jarring, here’s why.
I, like many women, built my identity around achievement, competence and visible output before I had kids - and that shift to motherhood felt less like a smooth glide and more like a knee-jerk gear-grind.
When I was going through that, I wished someone had given the words to, or even handed me the language to be able to understand what was happening. Being a mother is my greatest and most rewarding gift, but it’s got layers, right?
Is Hustle Mode Ruining Your Parenting Experience?
I learned early on that being independent and needing less from others made life easier – for everyone else. And it got praised. I was a good girl. So grown up. So helpful.
And to be honest, I wore that badge with pride. But then I became a mother. And then I started my own business. And that same drive – the one that made me unstoppable before – began to feel like an anchor.
Who Were You Before You Had Children?
What’s actually radical is that we’ve been conditioned to believe birth belongs in a hospital, strapped to a machine, under fluorescent lights, and surrounded by people who might not even know your name. So, let’s bust some myths.
Here's What I've Learnt This Week
Now let me tell you something, there’s something about buying a car - or trying to return one - that reveals exactly how women are expected to behave.
Be agreeable. Don’t question the expert. Don’t push too hard. Don’t be difficult. And whatever you do, don’t raise your voice.