The Silent Saboteur: Why 'Compromise' Can Be Toxic
Let’s talk about a word that sounds lovely, reasonable… balanced, even. Compromise. We’re raised to see it as the grown-up way to resolve conflict. Give a little, take a little. Be fair. Be flexible. Don't be difficult.
But in birth? Compromise can quietly rob you of your power – disguised as collaboration, masked as ‘what’s best for everyone’.
The Power of Doing Very Little
While this work is never about me, births like this are always a quiet nudge – a reminder that my value isn’t in the doing. It’s in the being. It’s in the gentle text that says “I’m here if you need.” It’s the calm, steady absence that whispers: If my doula isn’t pressuring me to come, she must really believe I can do this.
Home Birth Isn't Radical, It's Where Birth Works Best
What’s actually radical is that we’ve been conditioned to believe birth belongs in a hospital, strapped to a machine, under fluorescent lights, and surrounded by people who might not even know your name. So, let’s bust some myths.
When I Got Told I Couldn’t Present Freebirth as an Empowered Choice
Reflections on how the narrative shifts when women make choices that don't always align with the medical model of birth.
If I Was a Farmer and 50% of My Animals Needed Surgery… You’d Ask WTF Was Going On.
Yet, in human childbirth, this level of intervention is becoming the norm - and nowhere near enough people are asking WTF is going on. So let’s explore a not-so subtle reminder that we're animals, baby...