the shift from being productive to being needed is jarring, here’s why.
I, like many women, built my identity around achievement, competence and visible output before I had kids - and that shift to motherhood felt less like a smooth glide and more like a knee-jerk gear-grind.
When I was going through that, I wished someone had given the words to, or even handed me the language to be able to understand what was happening. Being a mother is my greatest and most rewarding gift, but it’s got layers, right?
I Do a Happy Dance When People Don’t Work With Me
There’s a moment that happens in every conversation with a potential client. We’ve spoken, we’ve felt each other out, they’ve shared their story, I’ve explained how I work. And then there’s a pause. A decision for both of us.
Before Birth Work, There Was This
The stage might have changed – boardrooms to birth rooms – but the purpose is the same. To stand with women as they step into their own power. To challenge the systems that tell them to be smaller, quieter, more compliant. To remind them that their voice matters – in the workplace, in the world, and especially in birth.
Powerful women need powerful guides
I’ve realised over the years that to do that kind of work - the kind that doesn’t just support a birth, but transforms a whole becoming - I can’t just read a book and rock up on the day.
I have to embody the investment that people make in me.
What this year has taught me about birth
Every year as a doula leaves its imprint. The stories, the women, the births – they don’t just pass through me, they shape me. This year has been no different. In fact, it has been one of the most powerful years of learning I’ve ever had, full of reminders about why I do this work and what it really means to be “with woman.”