I Do a Happy Dance When People Don’t Work With Me
There’s a moment that happens in every conversation with a potential client. We’ve spoken, we’ve felt each other out, they’ve shared their story, I’ve explained how I work. And then there’s a pause. A decision for both of us.
Powerful women need powerful guides
I’ve realised over the years that to do that kind of work - the kind that doesn’t just support a birth, but transforms a whole becoming - I can’t just read a book and rock up on the day.
I have to embody the investment that people make in me.
What this year has taught me about birth
Every year as a doula leaves its imprint. The stories, the women, the births – they don’t just pass through me, they shape me. This year has been no different. In fact, it has been one of the most powerful years of learning I’ve ever had, full of reminders about why I do this work and what it really means to be “with woman.”
Is Hustle Mode Ruining Your Parenting Experience?
I learned early on that being independent and needing less from others made life easier – for everyone else. And it got praised. I was a good girl. So grown up. So helpful.
And to be honest, I wore that badge with pride. But then I became a mother. And then I started my own business. And that same drive – the one that made me unstoppable before – began to feel like an anchor.
Dark Days in the Doula World
These past few weeks have been particularly heavy, and I feel it’s important to share what’s been unfolding – because it doesn’t just affect doulas. It affects the women and families we walk alongside, and it speaks to something much bigger about how women’s rights are held (or eroded) in birth.