The Silent Saboteur: Why 'Compromise' Can Be Toxic
Let’s talk about a word that sounds lovely, reasonable… balanced, even. Compromise. We’re raised to see it as the grown-up way to resolve conflict. Give a little, take a little. Be fair. Be flexible. Don't be difficult.
But in birth? Compromise can quietly rob you of your power – disguised as collaboration, masked as ‘what’s best for everyone’.
The Power of Doing Very Little
While this work is never about me, births like this are always a quiet nudge – a reminder that my value isn’t in the doing. It’s in the being. It’s in the gentle text that says “I’m here if you need.” It’s the calm, steady absence that whispers: If my doula isn’t pressuring me to come, she must really believe I can do this.
Home Birth Isn't Radical, It's Where Birth Works Best
What’s actually radical is that we’ve been conditioned to believe birth belongs in a hospital, strapped to a machine, under fluorescent lights, and surrounded by people who might not even know your name. So, let’s bust some myths.
A Tale As Old As Time: Induction Turned C-Section
Ruminating on how we get there, the illusion of choice, and how people feel on the other side.
I woke up to a voicenote this morning. A close friend lamenting the birth experience of a close friend. An induction she felt she had no choice to accept, an inevitable long labour and an eventual c-section.
I Got Told I Was The Worst Kind of Doula...
I got told I was the worst kind of doula… Here’s how one sold-out pregnancy retreat was an eye-opening opportunity to lean into 'my way' of doing things, and my conviction in my doula approach.